Children are a great happiness, but in order to raise worthy people, it is necessary to educate them. We bring to your attention 10 things that a 15-year-old child should know about.
10. Think for yourself, for this you have a brain
At this age, the child is still dependent on the parents, although some of them are already leaving to study and live an independent life. That is why you need to teach a teenager to think. Do not surround him with hyper-custody, let him understand that the time has come to answer for his actions himself. Do not try to impose your views and ideas about life on him; his point of view may not coincide with yours. Accept it and take it for granted. And explain to the child that he has his own brain, let him make decisions himself. Just do not move away from him, make it clear that in case of failure you can always support him.
9. You are unique
Explain to your child that he is unique. He is a person, he is the only one in the whole world. Teenagers very often find themselves an idol among the stars, sometimes a popular boy or girl from a neighboring yard can become an example of imitation. Your task is to make the child understand that you do not need to copy someone’s behavior and appearance. This is especially true of appearance. Teenagers often worry about imperfections, especially if they are the subject of ridicule in the classroom. Do not focus on this, help him solve the problem, if possible. For example, a child can go in for sports and lose weight, but a big nose will not go anywhere. It is very important to educate a self-confident person. He will not let himself be offended, he will value his uniqueness, love himself.
8. Do you really need all this?
Teach your child not to cheat on himself. Let him remember this question and periodically ask himself. Many adults lie to themselves, they succumb to the influence of others, live someone else's life. What can we say about a teenager whose psyche is still so unstable. Before making an important decision, he must answer this question for himself. After all, most of them do it like a friend, girlfriend, the coolest guy in the class. For example, your son’s friend enters college after 9th grade at a car mechanic. It is possible that your child, under his influence, will decide to repair automobiles for the rest of his life. If he thinks and asks himself this question, he will understand that this is not his dream. This is a friend’s desire; it has nothing to do with your child’s life.
7. Problems will always be - concentrate
No need to create a world for the child in which everything is fine. Do not protect him from problems. Otherwise, you will have to look after him all your life. Think that your child is no longer small. How will he live on if he cannot solve his problems on his own right now. Prepare him for adulthood. To do this, instill a sense of responsibility for the child. The way he himself solves problems relating to study, personal life. But do not close yourself from the child, explain to him that he can always ask you for advice and help.
6. Respect Can Be Your Best Ally
Older people often complain about youth. In their opinion, they do not respect anyone. But respect plays a huge role in life. To respect is to reckon with the opinions of other people, not to extol them, but to treat them as equals. At the same time recognize their advantages and strengths. A person who does not respect anyone is unlikely to be able to settle down well in life. If he neglects others, his attitude will become the same. Teach your child to respect, at least so that he listens to your opinion. After all, is this important for you? Want to be respected, respect your child. He should know that his opinion is important to you. Only then will he be attentive to the point of view of other people.
5. Social networks
If you are not interested in social networks, you do not know what Vkontakte and Instagram are, then it is time to register there. After all, your child spends a lot of time there, and you can view his page, friends, find out what he is interested in. Of course, this is an exaggeration. Your child has the right to privacy, but no one except you can explain to him how to behave on social networks. The teenager must understand what threatens him with one or another act. If a girl uploads too candid photos, and also puts geometries, it is not surprising that she will attract the attention of dangerous people. No personal photos, no confidential information. The child should know that these are not jokes at all, and sometimes such behavior turns into a tragedy.
4. Remember what you are good at
As often as possible, tell your child about his merits. He must know what is good, what is best for him. Do not lie to him, do not attribute those qualities that he does not have. Too bitter can be disappointment. If a child is disgustingly playing the piano, do not tell him that he is the best musician. He will believe you, and then demonstrate his ability in public. Guess what will happen? Do not focus on visual appeal. Better emphasize his abilities, talent, personal qualities.
3. Show me the money
This is a phrase from the famous movie Jerry McGuire. At the heart of the story is the story of Jerry, who was brought up in an atmosphere of avarice. Do not repeat this story, teach your child how to handle money. Whether to give him pocket money is up to you. However, a teenager may have his own needs, it is still better to give small amounts. A child at this age can already work. If possible, arrange it, at least for the summer. Hand out flyers, put up ads. You can say that you don’t need the money to send the child to work. Yes, but how then will he know the price of money? If you regularly “throw” him expenses, he will spend them on all nonsense. Will buy 35 in a row a computer game disk or treat friends with chips. Why worry and save if tomorrow they give more?
2. Overflowing with emotions
Unfortunately, very often a person is forced to hide his emotions. The teenager also can not always show their emotions. He will be very ashamed if he cries in a quarrel with a classmate. And if anger overwhelms him, the desire to punish the offender? Tell him how important it is to learn to control your emotions. Do not commit acts under the influence of strong feelings, let him try to control himself. Of course, everyone needs to let off steam. Advise him to “beat” the pillow or tell about his experiences. The child will quickly learn to hide his condition from others. Maybe when he grows up he will understand that he should not do so. That's just in society, everyone adheres to this behavior.
1. Love life
The most important thing you can teach a child is to love life. You need to live not in the past and not in the future. Today is all that we have. Tell him that life is a gift. He is healthy, he has parents, the opportunity to learn. Many people are deprived of all this. Often parents try to protect children from terrible information: terrorist attacks, sick children, murders. At this age, they should already know that justice does not always reign in the world. No matter how you like it, but after a few years, your child will step into adulthood. It would be better if he prepared for her.